I fear that my last parenthood post may have shocked my almost-parent friends into stunned silence. Because, although I got over 100 comments and emails, they were all from already-parents saying “hear-hear” and the like. So what I’d like to do is put together something tangible for all my friends to take away. I mean, we all read loads and loads of parenting books and get loads and loads of advice from everyone before, during and after pregnancy. But half the books you throw out the window and half the advice is nebulous (i.e. “Sleep now! While you can!”)
So, what I’d like to ask from all of my parent readers is to add a comment with the best advice they’ve gotten (or wish they had gotten) about parenting. And the more specific the better. For example, here’s my #1 Must Do: Get a parent posse. Specifically, join an online group (preferably one that also meets in real life), go to meetings, playgrounds, music classes, the gym, anything. Then invite other parents to hang out. You’re really not going to feel like doing this half the time. But if you do, eventually you’ll surround yourself with other parents you can count on and kids your children will grow up with. And you’ll get out of the house. This is a way to create the community that we need to raise our kids without going bonkers from isolation.
So leave a comment! Help some new parents!