One of my readers recently said to me, “Poor Violet.  She gets blamed for everything.”  I was shocked and dismayed.  Is that what people who don’t see us often, but read this page, really think?  Do I really blame her for everything?  Am I scaring her for life? And so I started down that road of mommy-guilt.

Then I stopped.  Because, guess what?  It IS her fault!  Graham crying?  You can be sure it has something to do with Violet.  Everyone tired?  Violet’s the one who wakes up at the crack of dawn and doesn’t nap.  Mess?  Yup, the girl thrives on chaos while the boy needs to clean.  Refusing to eat, put on clothes, take a bath, get in the car?  Violet, Violet, Violet and Violet.  Frustrated, annoyed, ticked off parent?  Violet is probably behind that.

So, yes, it’s all her fault.  But here’s the thing: it’s ALL NORMAL.  Nothing she does is outside the realm of a 3-year-old.  Sure, I’ve met angelic preschoolers, but if their parents insist they are perfectly behaved all the time they are lying, or on margarita medication.  Granted, Violet’s stubbornness, independence and energy are very hard to deal with compared to more laid-back children.  But the flip side of those qualities are why she is a smart, outgoing leader.  (Our master plan is that she will use these qualities to amass her fortune and pay for our lavish retirement.  We’ll deserve it by then.)

So please, rest assured, although it may not seem that way just reading my random rants, Violet is normal. And so am I.  (Will someone agree with me? Please?)

5 responses to “blame”

  1. Amber

    She is normal and beautiful and wonderful and so are you. You are a great mom and that child inspires great love, at least in the Walter family. Davis says his favorite part of the playground today was holding Violet’s hand down the slide.

  2. Mom

    Well, in my opinion, you and Violet are not normal, you are extraordinary!! Absolutely!

  3. Kristen

    We’ve got a “violet” over here too so I know what you’re talking about. I fall victim to feeling guilty once in a while too…hence my new approach to positive discipline (check out my last blog entry)…but I have a feeling things were kind of similar in MY household growing up and I turned out OK – so did my mom 🙂

  4. jodi

    oh, YES. normal, normal, normal…

  5. Rebecca

    Yes, Sylvia is our Violet. Very opinionated and always willing to stand up for what she believes in even if it’s eating the cat food.

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