Violet won’t be an only child much longer. In fact… really soon, I think. I’ve been trying not to do the guilt thing about what this huge upheaval will feel like to her. We’ve done everything conceivable to prepare her for it. But, come on, like anyone is really prepared for a new kid. Still, I’ve always loved having a little brother, and I’m sure she will too… most of the time.
Maybe I’m a little melodramatic. The first time I came home from summer camp, I cried for two days. It’s not that I wasn’t happy to be home, it’s just that I knew that I’d never have a first camp experience again. So I needed a little mourning time. And I think I feel the same way about the end of our little 3 person family.
So to freeze this phase in our lives, here’s what Violet is doing these days. She talks and sings non-stop. Recently I asked her if she would like such-and-such. She said, “No I would NOT.” Whoa… when did she learn that? She’s also got “Yes, I am”, “Yes, I do” and their negatives down. Pronouns are increasingly easy for her, so it annoys me to no end that I still sometimes refer to myself in the third person. She’s usually a whiz with her pleases, thank-yous and your-welcomes, which makes me unreasonably happy. The blends are still difficult, so snail is “nail” and clip is “cip”. It’s unfortunate that “tr” is usually replaced by “f” and “st” is replaced by “d” because she often loudly discusses trucks and sticks in public. Oh, and she has a baby lisp, which sometimes makes her sound like Vizzini from The Princess Bride. “Never go in against a Sicilian when death is on the line!”
She still falls back on whining a bit too much, especially when tired, hungry or frustrated. We’re working on it. She’s has recently ratcheted up the tantrum scream a notch. But it’s so obviously just a show most of the time, I almost want to laugh. Time-outs have worked pretty well; she actually seems to need the 2-minute breather. Then she puts all her dolls (and sometimes daddy) into time out, afterwards carefully explaining why, making them apologize and giving them a hug. All of this is done in a high-pitched “mothering” voice, while the toys respond in various accents.
After the past six months of huge jumps in oral language, she is suddenly interested in signing again. She loves watching sign language videos and seems completely amused by the whole idea. She’s also keenly aware of the hand motions that go along with kids’ songs… and rhymes in general. The other day she sighed happily, “I LOVE nursery rhymes.” Of course, right now she changes the ends of most lyrics to “pee” and then rhymes it with “pee”, laughing hysterically. Toilet humor is clearly a big hit.
As far as actually using the potty… no real interest yet. That’s something we’ll worry about after the shock of “the invader” wears off. And we’ll save the “big girl bed” transition for later too. One thing I’ve learned is that when Violet is ready for something, she’s ready, and not a moment earlier. Must choose battles carefully.
And there are a million other things, which I say I’m going to document daily. But I just can’t. I’ll just mention that yesterday Violet lifted my shirt stared straight into my popped-out belly button and said, “Baby brother, come out soon? Play?”